How To Prevent Divorce From Ruining Your Career
The effects of divorce can be dire for your career. It can keep you distracted at work, make you irritable and stressed and generally affect your on-the-job performance. Here are three measures to prevent such consequences:
Separate Divorce Issues From Work Issues
The first advice is to handle divorce issues separately from work issues. Do that successfully, and your job won't get entangled or held back by divorce issues. A convenient way of handling this separation is to make a diary of all tasks related to your divorce. Keep this diary at home so that you only get to handle the tasks when you get home.
It also helps to hire a divorce attorney, and let him or her handle most of the essential issues. Don't call your lawyer while at work, and tell him or her to contact you only after work (unless it is an emergency). Lastly, don't keep talking about your divorce with your colleagues. Such talk only distracts from your work responsibilities.
Take Care of Yourself
Divorce can be very emotional and frustrating. People handle such frustrations in different ways. It can be very damaging, however, if your chosen coping method involves destructive methods such as alcohol abuse. In that case, your career is likely to hit the rocks too. Resist the temptation to let go of your appearance, stop going to the gym and start eating junk food.
Such destructive actions are likely to affects clients' view of you, reduce your self-esteem, reduce your energy levels and affect your performance at work. Take care of your body and deal with the stress by:
- Prioritizing your issues and letting go of the frivolous
- Making time for fun
- Leaning on family members and friends
- Joining a divorce support group
Take Care of the Finances
Lastly, you should watch your financial expenditures more closely during this time. Divorce costs a lot of money; depending on your situation, some of the things you may have to pay include:
- Attorney fees
- Court fees
- Temporary alimony
- Marital debts
- Mortgage refinancing costs
Imagine what this would do to you if you were in the process of reinventing your career, for example, by going back to school. You can even find yourself quitting when you run out of funds. Apart from that, the financial stress may also keep you preoccupied and unable to handle your work duties as usual.
Make a conscious decision not to let your divorce affect your work. With the help of a good lawyer, aim for an expedited divorce so that you can go back to living your life as before. Don't forget that you may have to compromise on some of your demands during the divorce.
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